Monday, October 20, 2014

Harang

Hi mga ateng! I'm back from my bonggang vacation in Boracay. I'll make kwento about diyan sa susunod dahil mas importanteng mai-share ko sa inyo ang karanasan ng isa nating shupatemba sa isang bar in The Fort. Very similar sa experience ko last October 4.

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Originally posted in Facebook
By Fritziecoi, October 19, 2014 5:14 PM

Fritziecoi (right most) with her fab friends
Hindi ko alam kung hanggang kailan tuluyang mawawala ang diskriminasyon sa bansang ito, especially sa mga kagaya namin. It is really sad that your fellow countrymen are the ones who put you in shame.

We've been #discriminated last night in a club where my friend was suppose to celebrate her birthday. Ang nakakaloka lang ilang beses na kami nagpupunta doon. Most of the time I wear mini shorts or dress pa nga 'pag pumupunta doon. Yes, there are times na mahaharang ako but after a few minutes of discussing with them, they would let me in. But last night was totally out of line. Last week we also went to that club and I wore a short black dress. They just checked my bag without any question and I went in. I don't really know what was the problem last night. Kung kelan nagsuot ako ng dress na covered legs ko, closed shoes maliban sa naka-sleeveless ako. Well 'yung isa naming friend is naka short dress but willing naman sila ng bestfriend niya which is the birthday celebrant na mag-change outfit para makapasok na kami at para masunod yung "dress code" nga daw nila. 

But then as we go to the entrance, ini-insist talaga ng mga bouncers na hindi daw talaga pwede. My friend handed me her blazer para 'di na nga ko sleeveless. So okay na, balot na balot na ako. Then they checked my bag and ask for my ID. Kaloka! Wala akong dalang ID so sinabi ko wala. Mukha ba akong menor de edad?! Last week wala naman silang hiningi sa akin. So ano ba talaga? Dumating 'yung head nila at sinabing hindi daw pwede. 

KUNG GUSTO KO DAW MAKAPASOK, BURAHIN KO DAW MAKE UP KO! "CROSS DRESSER" DAW KASI AKO. WTF! 


Malinaw na 'di alam ni sir ang difference between a crossdresser and a transgender. I felt so humiliated. To make the long story short, we cancelled our reservation on that club and moved to a more open/accepting and better club. Sobrang nakakasama talaga ng loob. #SorryPRIVE. Ang dami pang club diyan sa The Fort. Kudos to those clubs who don't care about the outfit of their party goers regardless of their sexuality. Anyway, we had a blast last night and we enjoyed it a lot. Thank you so much Anne. Happy Birthday once again. One month celebration daw haha! 


#NOTODISCRIMINATION

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This is really sad but I'll tell you my piece. Sa social media, madami akong nakikitang mga beks na pinapapasok sa mga mamahaling club pero dapat may pangalan ka or mukha ka nang babae. 'Yung halos wala ng bahid pagkalalake. Oh de vaahhh?! Even inside our group, may inequality. Kapag ordinaryong ateng ka, follow the rules. Kapag lets say prominente ka, walang ganyan. Go inside! Todong VIP treatment pa.

Thanks to idol Fritziecoi for giving permission in reposting her experience. Mwah!

13 comments:

  1. Ate Melanie,

    Sorry pero ang daming mistakes sa grammar nung rinepost po ninyo, di naman po sa pagmamaganda pero madami din pong tumatangkilik sa inyo'ng blog. Karamihan eh mga kabataan din, Ang Pilipinas ay kinikilala sa ibang bansa na maaasahan sa paggamit ng correct usage of the english language. Nagaaral naman po tayo, pero mukhang pababa na ng pababa ang kalidad ng ating edukasyon. Sana po ay tanggapin po ito bilang pagbibigay ng efficacious remarks at ang mga nagpopost sa facebook and the like e, iedit ang mga sinulat bago ipost for all to see.

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  2. VERY TRUE. Kahit sa mga grupo natin LGBT may pinipili.

    i can see some transgender na nakakpasok sa mga club yun ay dahil may "pangalan" sila o may kasamang nakaaangat na estado.


    Nakakasad talaga

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  3. ang masaklap niyan ang mga may-ari ng mga high-end na clubs na yan ay mga bakla rin, tulad ni tim yap at robbie carmona.

    p.s. nagtagalog na lang ako baka ma grammar police ako.sana lang sinulat nung nagmamagandang mag english sa english yung comment niya para makilatis kung talaga bang flawless ang grammar niya. world peace.

    p.p.s. mas mahaba pa ang ps kesa sa comment. lol

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  4. teka bakit pala inuna mo pa to kesa sa boracay? may pinag huhugutan ka? (joke).

    p.s. nilagyan ko ng joke baka masita pa ng mga serious reader mo. it's called dumbing down to please those whose iq are low and those who are ridiculously anal-retentive.

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  5. nag iinit ang ulo ko, sorry. pwede bang i rewrite nung first commenter mo yung comment niya in faultless english. ang importante ng issue, naisingit pa yung kabobohang grammar issue. malamang eto yung mga taong bumuboto kay erap at bong revilla. lol. sorry ulit.

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  6. -Teh Anonymous 1, may tama ka naman na importante ang grammar pero hindi basahen 'yan ng quality of education. Hindi porke magaling sa English eh angat na sa iba. At sa blog natin, hindi prioridad ang grammar kundi ang mensahe o kuda sa bawat paksa. Love love love!

    -Teh Anonymous 2, exactly my point! So talagang hindi nasusunod ang dress code depende sa estado ng buhay.

    -Teh Anonymous 3 and 4, AY! Wit ko noseline kung beks din sila ahahaha! Saka na 'yung Boracay at mahaba-haba 'yun.

    -Teh Anonymous 5, keri lang ang magbigay opinyon ditey basta 'wag lang below the belt at baka tamaan si junjun ahahaha!

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  7. -Teh Anonymous 1 - sa dami dame ng pwedeng sabhin bakit grammar pa napansin, dapat wag ka mag basa sa blog na toh at dun ka sa english blog mag koment,
    hindi namn ung grammar inaabangan naten kay ate melanie kundi ung kwento nya diba.. so get lost!!!!!

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  8. Te Melanie, fan na fan mo ako. Don't get me wrong. Pero konting edit edit naman ng grammar please. Medyo masakit kasi sa mata.
    "It is really sad that your fellow countrymen are the one(s) who put you in shame."
    "We've been #discriminated last night in a club where my friend was suppose to celebrate her birthday"
    "Yes, there are times na mahaharang ako but after a few minutes of discussing with them, they would let me in."

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  9. -Teh Anonymous 7, I listen to my sisters kaya in-edit ko na. Thank you so much for the correction ;)

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  10. Kaya nmn marami ang takot mag english dhil pinupuna ninyo ang english ng mga pinoy khit s America marunong nmn silang magenglish mali mali nmn ang grammar!!!

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  11. 'di naman sya dapat issue. Bawat place may sariling rules and regulations. Mahirap ba talaga sumunod? Most of the time reklamo lang ng reklamo kahit nasa mali. Para di maharang o mapahiya, dapat alamin in advance yung mga do's and don'ts. Kahit alam na susuway pa kasi.

    Stop the "victim" attitude. Walang discrimination na naganap. Proper enforcement lang ng house rules. Stop insisting "rights" you don't have. Tama na rin ang puro palusot. Nakalusot/pinalusot noon, gusto lagi nang pagbibigyan. Pinoy nga naman....

    Wake up girl!!!

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  12. Dear Anonymous @ October 22, 2014 at 12:47 PM,

    Malinaw na diskriminasyon ang naganap kung arbitrary din naman ang bar at hindi malinaw ang policy. Madaling magsalitang walang diskriminasyon kapag hindi naman sayo nangyari.

    In the first place, hanggang saan ang house rules? Kapag bawal mag Tagalog sa isang bar, susundin mo? Kapag bawal ang maitim, hindi pa rin ba yun diskriminasyon?

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