Friday, January 22, 2016

Bestida

Someone shared this on Facebook at todong na-touch ako sa kwento ng ating tatlong ancestors - Nanay Dory, Lucy and Lola Monching. Sa una ay maaawa ka at hihilingin na sana ay hindi matulad sa kanila pagtanda. Nang matapos ko ang palabas, hindi pala awa ang dapat kong maramdaman kundi paghanga. Tumanda man silang hindi mayaman, at least, hindi pahirap sa bansa na nauwi sa pagiging kriminal. Puno ng karanasan na para bang kay sarap mapakinggan.

Nanay Dory
I was into Nanay Dory's story. Siya ang pinakamatanda (98 years old) at pinaka-fabulous sa tatlo. Marunong gumupit, mangulot, magkulay ng buhok hanggang sa paggawa ng bonggang gowns ay kayang-kaya niya. I looove the ruffles sa kanyang bestida! Grabe din ang sakripisyo niya sa buhay pag-ibig. Pinag-asawa ng babae ang kanyang jowa dahil iyon daw ang tama. Kung 'yung iba sa atin ay halos bastusin na ang iba't ibang relihiyon maipaglaban lang ang gender identity o sexual orientation (sorry, I'm not the right person to discuss this dahil kailangan ko pang mag-SOGIE), heto ang isa nating kalahi na mas nanaig ang paniniwala sa Bibliya. Biglang pasok ang soundtrack mala-Noel Cabangon. Naiyak ako sa part na 'yan. SYET!

Ang dami kong natutunan sa istorya nila - the sacrifices, the dark experiences, the blossoming of their hearts and the struggles of being a beki. We can never tell the future but one thing is certain, we will remain who we are kahit tadtad na tayo ng fine lines at age spots. What matters is we gain in life so we can inspire others. 

Thanks, Lucy, Lola Monching and Nanay Dory.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

comment lang ako. i will never watch the video. ewan parang bad vibes sa akin yung kwento mo pa lang. yung mga ganyan na story parang nakakababa ng nararamdaman, ill do my best na wag maging gaya nila (again,nabasa ko lang sa isinulat mo ateng). thank you so much and mabuhay!

Anonymous said...

that's like the sad reality. gays with families, be it with his wife, children or his father and mother are lucky that someone could take care of him ehen he's old. but this gays who are neither welcomed by the society or their families are so pathetic, tho there are organizations that welcomed homeless gays, not all of them can accomodate them, you know these homeless gays are like from far places. oh my gosh. im so sad for them but i know the Person up there will always guide and protect them as they struggle life. gosh..

Anonymous said...

Ang arte animal! Uso mag tagalog teh!

Anonymous said...

sablay yung pag iingles pero nagets ko naman ang ibig ipahiwatig ni ate. makibaka! wag matakot! charot!

Edgar Portalan said...

I oughtta watch this : )

AnonymousBeki said...

Nakaka-senti mode naman. Thanks for sharing anyway.

Lj said...

There life is a blessed-full life! although they have less of something but they also have more of everything...that is there colorful life experiences. Gays of today's generation is blessed that many of the Filipinos and even the world (the universe rather!!) are open already with the 3rd sex, unlike to this 3 wherein they have faced the reality of being gay before that was considered as a taboo, an abomination, a freak of nature, a disease, The world before is not ready for this vulgarity and more often they were bullied, hurt and sometimes killed. Many of them just died without given a chance to show who they really are, embraces there true selves and comeout in the open for fear of persecution and only few such as these 3 courageous women who fought the odds. So I salute them and envy them, they are truly an inspiration of growing old as gay is not something that you have feel fear off, its something that you have to be thankful for, because many has strive to leave but only few made it to reach more than the age of 70.

I hope that the LGBT will help them (not that they need helping) but make them feel specially, as they are truly are special even for just a day

Anonymous said...

Miss M, naiyak ako. Lalo na after watching the documentary proper then playing the MV. Salamat for sharing this. Ganito ba talaga ang iginuhit sa ating tadhana... "Baka hanggang pamamaalam, alaala nalang?". So pag mawawala na tayo sa mundong ito, we will just be a memory of a person who once walk in this world. Nothing more. :( I have read somewhere na to achieve immortality, you either sire a child, plant a tree or write a book. Guess we better start a forest. Or write an encyclopedia.


On another note, the documentary paints our sad and miserable future reality. Let's admit it. We should stop f*cking ourselves with the dream that a prince charming will come. Iilan lang ang maging swerte sa atin na makakakita ng ating "the one". We will grow old (and die) alone in the hands of our kapatids, nephews/nieces or home for the aged. And they might love us pero iba pa rin yung may asawa at anak. Aminin.

Oh Miss M and dear ka-kusas, console me in this misery :((( Thank you, *juan_uwagan*

Anonymous said...

mag-enroll ka sa summer class teh. ako prof mo. masaya promise! --mc

Xatru said...

Inspiring indeed.

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